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TODAY’S CHILD

related to self-evaluation and has to do with to shout, this will be counter-productive. Your brain’s ability to absorb and process information
how one interacts with and responds to child is so alert to the emotional message that rather than to simply engage in rote learning.
others. While it’s important for teenagers to they won’t hear any of the logic you’re trying to Today’s demands on teens mean that academic
form friendships, interacting with others can impart.” study has to be about actively engaging with
be difficult, especially for teens subjected to the work.
peer pressure and those who suffer from social Grounding or taking away privileges from a
anxiety. teenager also serves no real purpose, she adds. Ultimately, the tried and tested ways of
“Rather, teach your teenager to be responsible parenting will always apply: maintaining open
Based on their brain development, teens will be and accountable for the choices they make by communication channels; showing genuine
less able to think before they act, to consider the getting them to work on solving the problems interest in what your teen is feeling or going
consequences of their actions and to change that arise in their daily lives.” through; and taking the time to help them
dangerous or inappropriate behaviours. In turn, process their challenges.
they are more likely to be impulsive, engage REWARD CONSIDERATIONS
in risky behaviour, misread social cues and Increased dopamine activity in teenagers We now know that changes in the brain can
emotions, and get into fights. means that praise and positive feedback are be shaped by action. This implies that the
important. The sooner your child receives more they practise skills such as self-control,
WHAT TO FOCUS ON feedback, the greater the impact it makes. This emotional regulation and establishing a good
When it comes to disciplining your teenager, is evident when it comes to schoolwork. Praising work ethic, the better the outcome will be. The
proceed with care, advises psychologist Terri the child for the hard work they’ve put in will teen years can, therefore, set a solid foundation
Apter. Teens won’t respond well to anger encourage them to engage meaningfully with for adulthood.
because of their heightened emotional and their work. The positive spinoff is that you’re
social sensitivity. “Even though it’s tempting helping your teenager to make the most of their www.lifetalk.co.za

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