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TODAY’S CHILD
TOD A Y ’S CHILD
DON’T WORRY, BE HAPPY
By Dr Ilse Ruane
et’s face it, we all have those days when changing your attitude and understanding more on the betterment of yourself as a
we do not feel happy. Circumstances and that you are in full control, and fully person, you start working towards creating a
Lcertain events in our lives can change how capable of changing your situation. happier space around you. A happier space
we view events and people, but the outcome around you attracts like-minded happier
of whether you are happy or not depends on 3. Create a plan to reach happiness people, and tends to not allow negative
you. The power of choice is one of the most When you know why you are unhappy and destructive thinking (and people in that
extraordinary things that human beings have. and have a positive attitude, you are in space).
We have the choice of whether to be happy a better position to start to devise a plan
or sad. This is a choice we get to make every to achieve happiness. This is where many Working on improving ourselves in relation
single minute of every day. people hit a mental roadblock and self- to others, affords the opportunity to develop
doubt enters their minds. Excuses are more realistic views and expectations of
Let’s take a look at some points that could made to justify remaining unhappy. If ourselves. It also allows us to develop a
assist you in becoming happier. you are serious about being happy, you healthy self-esteem which in turn allows us
need to push all self-doubt out of your to succeed in life. Those with low self-esteem
Four step plan of action mind and commit to developing a plan find it exceedingly difficult to be successful,
If you are unhappy, you have two options; to become happy. Determine what your as well as finding it difficult to create healthy
complaining about it or changing it. ultimate goal is and take the steps you will relationships with others. Those who are
Follow this easy four step plan of action to need to reach it. successful, tend to be happier in addition
start taking back your happiness. to having higher self-esteem and valuing
4. Take action and do not look back themselves as people.
1. Determine why you are unhappy With your plan outlined, it is time to
There could be several reasons that you move forward and not look back. Simply Have a few close relationships and be
are unhappy, you could be working a taking action doesn’t guarantee results. proactive in these?
job that you do not like, working with Your journey to happiness could include Relationships are the most important thing
people you don’t enjoy being around or mistakes, rejection and disappointment. when it comes to overall life satisfaction,
having a fight with a friend. There could But if you do not take action, there is only at least for most people. There is not much
be many different reasons, and it’s up to one guarantee, and that is your situation evidence in research suggesting more friends
you to identify them. Whatever they are... will never improve and you will remain equal happier people, perhaps because
know that you are not going to find true unhappy. the quality of the people in your life matters
happiness until you single out what the the most. Maintaining a small circle of close
problem is. Happiness is not going to happen overnight. friends has been shown to make people
You need to continue to push forward, happier. It is also important to remember that
2. Change your attitude regardless of how difficult it may appear. there are new friends to be made throughout
Negative thoughts breed negativity and our lives so do not close yourself off from
unhappiness, while positive thoughts, Think of yourself less frequently new friends and experiences. This applies
conversely, breed positivity and Exercise humility... humility is not thinking to all relationships, but especially with your
happiness. When it comes down to it we less of yourself but thinking of yourself less. In significant other. All relationships tend to
are all responsible for our own happiness. other words, do not think less of yourself as a decline over time, especially when you let
The only way you will be happy is by person, but think of yourself less. By focusing your relationship go into autopilot.
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