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making up, accepting the husband’s plans, interpersonal dynamics and our ability Not only must we change our style
showing concern and appealing to fairness. to control the controllables. If we try to from negative (blaming) to positive (see
understand others as well as ourselves; the good and understand the bad), we
There seems to be a difference of opinion and if we are as kind in our positive must also, at the same time, change our
about which gender makes up first. I interpretations of the causes of our behaviour (decrease the hate and increase
suspect that making amends is more partner’s behaviour as we are with regard the tolerance). This is not an easy thing to
of a function of how angry the person to our behaviour, there would be less do in the midst of a heated conflict – but
is, the seriousness of the issue, general relationship discord to navigate. we must always try.
satisfaction with the marriage, etc. than a
gender difference.

There is some general agreement among
women about men. Their major complaint
is that men can be non-communicative
and lack emotional responsiveness. Men
avoid interactions when dissatisfaction is
expressed.

In a general sense and in milder
disagreements, the sexes seem to be o Marital, Couples & Family Therapy
at odds: women give more emotional
o Counselling Children, Adolescents & Adults
responses and want an emotional
o “Teen” Challenges
response back; whereas men give more
informational, unemotional responses o Behavioural & Adjustment Challenges
and want practical, constructive, rational o Stress-Related Challenges
responses back. Neither response is wrong, o Adjustment to Depression & Anxiety
so if both partners could learn to give both
o Subject & Career Psychometric Testing
kinds of responses, we might be on the
right track to improving understanding and For an appointment please call
relations between them.
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